what to ask
Reduce your need to a sentence or two. Keep the questions
simple, so the solution can be simple too.
Know who to ask
The person you ask needs to have YOUR best interests at heart,
not theirs. This is about forwarding your life, not the manipulations
of someone else’s selfish agenda.
Speak in questions
You are ASKING for advice, not looking for someone to rant
to. Instead of saying something like “they don’t
listen to me” you could ask “what would you do
if someone else doesn’t listen to you?” That gives
them another opportunity to give you an opinion.
Don’t box them in
It’s the details that bog you down. Don’t share
too many details with your advisor unless they ask for them.
Perhaps their freedom from details will bring about suggestions
that can free you up too.
Don’t filter their advice against your details either.
Don’t immediately jump to “it won’t work
because…” That’s just setting you up to
repeat failure. Take in their advice fully; then move on to
Be willing to give the advice a chance. After all, you came
here for advice; it’s no good unless you do something
Make an appointment to follow up with your advisor at a later
date. That turns the advice into goals, and the follow through
into a contract.