|Pointing the finger isn't just child's play. We still do it
as adults... every day. And as long as it's "someone else's
problem" we can just ignore it, right?... unfortunately
that also robs us of something more important - our own empowerment.
Putting off problems to someone else doesn't solve it. In
fact, it can come back and haunt us even more. So rather
than deflect and defer, why not respect and respond?
Don't look for
someone or something to blame
Think of how much further you'll get if you spend your time
looking for solutions. Besides, if you find someone else to
blame, think of how much time they're going to lose blaming
Taking the responsibility
isn't taking the blame
Being "responsible" puts you in a position of power...
and being in power means that you can help control how the
solution will be implemented. Are you really comfortable with
someone else's solution?
Form a team of allies; especially with the person who started
the blame game. There is less resistance if your "enemy"
becomes your "ally," and that will get you to the
Keep relationships intact
Remember that the relationship between people is more important
than winning an argument. If you can all value that, no problem
is too big to tackle.
Keep focus on the solutions
There's a natural tendency to want to figure out what went
wrong, so as not to do it again. Nothing wrong with that,
except when the return on that investment amounts to very
little. Before you begin to look back, ask yourself if it
would be better to just keep looking forward. Some things
are better just fixed and forgotten.
Learn and move on
When it's all over, then you can review and see what NOT to
do again in the future. Then, once you learned something GET
ON WITH IT.