make promises you can keep.
We must be able to do what we say we can do. If we know we
can't achieve it, we shouldn't promise it in the first place.
Also, we shouldn't promise results if there's too many things
out of our control (we can promise "I'll do my best to
win the gold medal" but we can't really promise that
we'll actually win it)
Only make promises for yourself.
We can't control the will of others, so we also can't make
promises for them. Either the other person is going to resent
us for committing them; or if they fail to deliver, we'll
be the one who looks bad. It's not a winning thing to do.
It's better to get them to make their own promises if we need
Don't make conflicting promises
To be really true to the goal, we shouldn't make a promise
to someone else that conflicts. One of them is sure to be
disappointed; maybe even both.
It's not about being able to make a promise that builds our
character and our reputation. It's about us actually coming
through on them. To become known as someone who follows through
helps us as much as it helps them.
How will we ever really know if we "did good" unless
we ask? Getting the feedback not only tells us whether we've
succeeded or not, it helps to show we really, really care.
Start small. Think of the little promises
we make during the course of the day."I'll pick up bread
on the way home" or "I'll call you this afternoon"
and write them down. Have a little "promise book"
in your pocket; like a "to do" list but only of
the things that have been committed to someone else.
Then make sure to check them off.