Most people can tell when things aren’t working
out, but then we pile on the excuses, until we can safely
ignore the problem. Unfortunately, the more we surround
the problem with excuses, the more the problem becomes
the core of our lives.
Read the Signs
Some of the tell tale signs that something isn’t
- Progress is slowed or stops all together
- The “simplest” of things seem like
- The fun is gone
- The grass starts looking greener on the other side
Understand the message
Now just because some or all of the signs appear, doesn’t
mean we should just up and leave it all. Before running
off, it’s important to weigh the “solution”
of leaving to its alternatives. The grass isn’t
always greener and some problems are better worked through
What matters is when we and everyone else involved
agrees that it’s best to go (such as a job that
isn’t a good fit); or when the need to go far
outweighs the opinions of others (such as relationships
where an abusive partner doesn’t want us to go).
What to do about it
- If and when we decide to move on, it’s important
to make the move as quickly and as painless as we
- Get into a new “space” where things
look and feel different. That will prevent old habits
from corrupting the new life.
- Set as many new goals as we can… as far reaching
into the future as we can. There’s nothing like
new hope to motivate us into moving forward.
- Don’t look back... at least not until there’s
a lot of time between us and what we left. The distance
will give us a renewed view on things.
Remember that commitment is to us and our future. We
all get lost sometimes. Moving on is not giving up,
it’s adjusting our sails to put us on a better