We need to ask ourselves, 'What one thing would I really really
regret if I left it undone?' We talk about living a life of
no regret, but regrets happen anyway. So if we can't forget
'em, we might as well fix 'em.
Why is it unfinished?
Once we know what business we want to finish, it's important
to look at why it's unfinished. Did we just give up? Did we
lose interest? Did we say or do the wrong thing once, and
became too proud to fix it? It's time to look for clues so
we can turn it around to become our action plan.
What would it take to finish it?
Now let's get right down to the goals... what would it tale
to finish it? Write it down. Step by little step. The focus
here is on HOW we're going to get this thing done.
What does 'Finished' look like?
It's really important to know what 'Finished' looks like.
Otherwise. how will we ever know we've arrived? Write it down
as well; see it clearly. That's our end result. That's the
whole reason for doing this.
Are other people involved?
Having other people involved means one of two things. Either
it's going to take longer to finish or it'll happen much quicker
than we ever imagined. It all depends on the desires and plans
of those other people. If they want to finish it too, amazing
things can happen.
What first step can I take to start
the finishing process?
We're the ones who want to finish, so we have to
be the one to start it. It's so easy to be prideful and either
say 'they need to make the first move' or 'I can't do THAT!'
Well, that foolishness needs to stop now. Finishing is more
important than anything else we can dream of. And when it's
all said and done, won't it feel even better to know that
we started it?
If I can't finish it this time,
am I willing to really let it go?
OK, let's face it. Sometimes no matter what we want, it's
not going to happen. Can we face that 'reality' if it comes?
If we're willing to accept that and let it go, in a way it
IS finished, even if not in the way we wanted.
Exercise to try
This might just get you in the habit of finishing up stuff.
Go through your date book, PDA, drawer of scratch paper or
speed dialer and just call someone you haven't spoken to in
a while. You don't necessarily have to have unfinished business
with them. "Catching up" is enough unfinished business
for now. Who knows, it might just be a pleasant surprise,
or it might lead to something bigger, You'll never know until
you make that move.