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Sunday, January 31, 2010 Lower your standard for happiness to include everything. You ever play the game "If Only"? You know, "If only I had a better job/more money/someone to love/fill in the blank..." While it's nice to dream... (in fact, it's the first step to achieving it)... it's not good if it stops you from enjoying what you DO have.
Most of your life is going to be filled with the little things.
Notice I didn't say "minor things"... I said, "little things"... HUGE different.
A hamburger is just as good as a Filet Mignon and an economy car is just as good as a luxury vehicle IF you enjoy it. In fact they are BETTER, if all you have is a hamburger in your economy car and not your filet in the luxury car.
This is what the saying "a bird in the hand is worth two in the bush" is all about. What you DO have is much more valuable and much more enjoyable than what you DON'T have.
So while it's still important to keep growing and keep going on your path of improvement, lower the level of what makes you happy. Make it so that EVERYTHING makes you happy. Really enjoy that meal, and that job, and the people around you... everything, everything, everything. That makes it's easier to get happy, be happy and make happy.
Friday, January 29, 2010 If you really want to impress other people, show them how great THEY are. Do you know why people like to look up to other people? Not because they like the qualities of the person, but because they want to be LIKE that person. They don't necessarily want to BE that person, just have that one or two qualities that the other person has. So that's definitely a reason for you to be your best, so that others will want those qualities for themselves.
But do you really want to know a better way to get them to be impressed by you? Show them just how totally beautiful, smart, funny, caring, dynamic, divine, and incredibly unique THEY are.
You see, people want YOUR qualities because they think it would make them feel better if they had it. Yet, if they realized that they have admirable qualities too, then they wouldn't have to look outside themselves for something to make them feel better.
Of all the qualities you could cultivate to make yourself look better, the best one is becoming the shiniest mirror you can be.
Friday, January 22, 2010 Live Life like a baker that kneads bread rather than a beggar that needs bread. Life owes you nothing, yet offers you everything. The only thing that keeps you from it is not what you have or don't have, but rather what you think of yourself.
You act according to your nature. You do what comes naturally. It's just that what feels "natural" and what is your true nature don't often match. Years of negative conditioning has gotten you all doubtful, fearful or cynical and now it just feels like you're the victim, or you're in competition for a limited supply or just plain undeserving of all life's riches.
Get over yourself.
There IS an unlimited supply out there, providing we give back from what we receive. A baker sees a world full of flour, water and eggs and gives back bread. A beggar sees a world of only so much bread and begs the world to give it up.
Both are right, but one of them has the secret to abundance.
So how do you see yourself, and the world around you?
Monday, January 18, 2010 It is the worst of times that brings out the best in people. During the good times, it's easy to forget. It's easy to overlook flaws; and it's easy to look really good. Yet, the good times are when we build the character that we show during the worst of times.
Natural disasters happen. We may not understand the reason for them, but they do. They don't matter nearly as much as what we do about them.
Do we use them to question God or the Universe (or whatever higher power you might believe in)? There is suffering in the world, does that mean they're cannot be something compassionate out there? Some will lose their faith.
Do we use them to think we are superior to others? The recent comments of Pat Robertson, that the Haitians brought the earthquake on themselves because of a pact with the devil, says so much more about him than about the people who now lie buried in rubble. Others, like Rush Limbaugh, would use this disaster to attack others no matter what the outcome. Had President Obama been slow to act, he would have complained about Obama's lack of compassion; because the response was quick, he accused Obama of bring political. Clearly these people are exposing their truer nature. Some people will lose faith in them.
Do we them to show we care? You CAN focus on all the suffering and devastation, if you wish, or you can look at all the people coming together to help one another. People rushing to their cellphones to make donations, organizations mobilizing to bring food and water to survivors, and big equipment to help create more survivors... and seeming enemies coming together, if only for a moment, to forget about their differences and concentrate on their common goal. Some people will gain faith.
Do we take the time to treasure what we have? Disasters that happen to others can also impact us. They can remind us of how much we have, and what is most important to us. We may hug our loved ones a little tighter, or enjoy the comfort and warmth of our beds just a little bit more. Some people will gain gratitude.
We can't choose our disasters, but we can choose whether we turn them into tragedies or triumphs.
What do you choose?
Keep the light on! GuruStu
"I have a dream that my four little children will one day live in a nation where they will not be judged by the color of their skin but by the content of their character"
Monday, January 11, 2010 Someone may open a door for you, but you still need to walk through. Successful people don't have more opportunities than unsuccessful people, they just see more. And highly successful people don't have more opportunities than successful people, they just do more.
Opportunities are EVERYWHERE... and they are available for EVERYONE. They're not one-size-fits-all and that's why some have better results than others... but WHOEVER you are, and WHEREVER you are, and HOWEVER you are, there's an opportunity.
You have to SEE it. You have to SEIZE it. You have to DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT.
Even when someone else opens a door for you... if THEY walk through, then it's THEIR opportunity. You want it to be YOUR opportunity? Then YOU walk through!
Friday, January 08, 2010 'Perfect' is not to be, but to 'Be' is perfect. The 'problem' with "Perfection" is that it changes every time... because Life changes every moment. There are 'right times' and 'right actions' and occasionally those two come together, but all too often, we strive to be "Perfect" all the while keeping that at an unreachable length away.
I'm going to give away a giant secret now...
You're already Perfect... just the way you are.
Sure, you've got lessons to learn, and dreams still unborn; and you don't always say the right thing or know what to do in an awkward moment... that's all part of Life. It's MEANT to be that way.
"Perfect" is an end result, an achievement, and therefore it's finite. Life isn't. Life in Infinite. YOU are infinite.
So stop trying to be something that stops. Instead, rise to every occasion, do the best you can whenever you can. Just BE.
Live, Learn and Love. It's perfect, so you don't have to be.
Sunday, January 03, 2010 The road behind you may be empty, but the road ahead is open. There are going to be times when you look back and wonder "what have I done with my life... have I made it worth my while, did I make a difference?" You may end up focusing on all the things that went wrong, or never happened and then start to think that it's not going to happen now or in the future either.
But just because you can look back and see emptiness, and even look forward and see emptiness there too, doesn't mean the entire road has nothing to offer. On the contrary, the open road ahead is full of possibilities! How do I know this? Because that's what fills up the emptiness that surrounds us... infinite possibility!
And besides, you're so busy looking around to notice that the road is NOT empty. ow do I know THAT? Because of YOU. YOU are on it. As long as the road has SOMETHING, it can't have NOTHING.
So stop looking for nothing... go boldly on the open road and let the world see that you really are SOMETHING.
Saturday, January 02, 2010 Now's the time to make New Year's Real Solutions. New Year's Resolutions are getting a bad rap. Just because a number of other people have made promises that they know they can't or won't keep doesn't mean that you shouldn't make promises to yourself.
Lately it's gotten so hip to put down resolutions... everyone explaining why they don't work, or why they'll never make them for themselves, yadda yadda yadda blah blah blah... but nevertheless, "resolution" means to commit to a something, a determination to follow through. How is that a bad thing?
The transition from an old to a new year is an excellent time to reflect upon the achievements and lessons of the past, and then to set a new course for the future. Sure it can be done on any other day of the year, but the world's made it a habit to do it at the "New Year"... so take advantage of it.
Make one (or two)
Then, all you have to do is stick to it and show everyone else how it's done.