Dear Guru Stu,
Can you hate someone you love?
Dear Mixed Up,
Well... can you have vanilla and chocolate ice cream in the same bowl?
Love and Hate are two sides to the same emotion; they intimately bind
two people together. The only difference is one of direction -- Love bringing
together; Hate pushing apart. If you've ever held two magnets together,
you've felt the same power.
The potential to have both are always present. It's just a matter of
the direction you're facing.
People are complex; and relationships between people is doubly complex.
Most of the time we don't actually love or hate another person, but rather
we love or hate something about them. When they do something we like,
the love comes in; or otherwise, then hate.Most of the time, it's not
true Love or Hate that we feel, but rather anger, frustration, joy, sexual
attraction. We just label it one or the other to make it easier to pigeonhole.
Basically, we have our relationships on the one hand and a mixed bag of
feelings on the other.
It just comes down to the right hand knowing what the left hand is up
Keep the light on,