Dear Guru Stu,
I never thought I'd be writing to you, but here I am. My husband &
I have been married for 20 years. Since the 1970's we've both been advocates
of positive thinking. Over the years, we've even held seminars telling
others how to be happy, and I thought we were.
Now he's run off with a girl young enough to be his daughter. I'm so
hurt, betrayed and refuse to believe that I created this reality.
So what now?
Replaced in Riverside
Welcome to Life, Unedited. It's one thing to know HOW to be happy; it's
quite another to actually BE happy. And just because you know HOW to be
happy and you've BEEN happy, doesn't mean that there are going to be times
in your life that just plain "reeks."
Life is full of ups and downs; full of betrayals. Don't let something
like this stop you from believing that you have control of your own destiny.
Life isn't about the events in your life, it's about what you do with
the events in your life that counts.
Did you create THIS reality you find yourself in right now? I'd still
say "yes." But you didn't do it alone. Obviously, the guy you
married is playing a big part in it.
You never know what the future holds. Perhaps he'll come back, perhaps
not. Perhaps this is the BEST thing that could ever happen to you. It's
important to acknowledge that this part of your life is bad, and it is
equally important to know that you will get through this.
Take some time now for yourself. Decide what YOU want your life to be
about. Go through all the scenarios... and if you feel bad, go ahead and
feel bad. Just keep yourself from doing anything rash until you let some
Maybe you didn't exactly choose this reality, but now you have an opportunity
to create your reality from now on. Choose to win Today, and you'll find
all your own replacements in Tomorrow.
Keep the light on!