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heart knotSir, I met a Lady I love most in my life, at first she agree to be my lover at a point her relatives told her she should never talk of marrying another tribe. we're both from Nigeria (she Igbo, I Yoruba) that was the begining of my unhappiness. she said there is no way she can marry me that i should forget about it. I have tried enough to forget about her for the past six (6)months, instead the love grows stronger in my heart. nothing matters to me now even my life i love her so much i don't know what to do. I'm tired of living without her.



Dear Restless,

One half of a relationship can never be whole. As long as one person decides to take a different road, the chances to travel together get farther apart with each step.

The fact that you are of different tribes is just a detail. What matters the most here is that she has chosen to follow her family and not you. Now that's tough to take, especially because we all want someone to love us as much as we love them. However, clinging to a belief that another person will eventually come around to us wastes not only our time, but ruins our chance at true happiness.

The first thing to do is to accept her decision, because if you ever want true love, you cannot start with false promises. She has stated that she is not the one for you. However painful that is, that is the truth of your situation.

Next, accept your pain. This hurts; there's no denying it. This is something that needs to be worked through, so that you can move on from this.

Finally, Take some time to get back to yourself... to learn to respect who you are and reconnect with the lovable side of yourself... because if you rob yourself of happiness, you'll have nothing to give. Someone out there will want your love; will cherish it, and return it to you tenfold.

Best of luck to you,


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